Fierce Care of Your Digital Space

I have not known how to navigate the madness that hits me every time I log into Facebook since 1/20/17 without shutting it out completely. Until now.

For some shutting it off entirely is a viable option.

For me, not so much. I help run two groups and I am a part of a group of powerful  web designers and developers –  all women – women I’ve come to love deeply over the past several years of connection with them.

So these days, I’m asking “How? How do I stay connected in the spaces where I want the connection and disconnect from the rest of it?”

Here are the proactive steps I know to take on my own behalf.

 

  1. Disable the app on my phone. That adds a step to clicking in and an added point of choice. An added moment to ask myself if I really want to go here now, to pay attention.
  2. I can unfollow people. I’m doing that with increasing frequency.
  3. If they still show up in my feed, I can reevaluate the level of friendship I have assigned to them on Facebook and make necessary changes, including assigning a “restricted” status. Yes I’ve done that. Yes, sometimes can feel difficult, especially when it is a much loved family member. And yes, it’s worth it.
  4. When all else fails, last resort, I can block the source of info. I’ve done that as well.

My primary focus this year is to cultivate and reside predominantly in the space of Unbounded Joy, to know viscerally that I am inherently worthy of residing there no matter what else is swirling around me. I am the only one who has control of the frequency I choose to hang out at … and while it feels like I should be able to maintain calm and happiness in the midst of everything, I don’t yet do that.

When I am repeatedly blasted with info I am not actively seeking out (and know how to seek out when I am in the space to digest the info without being sidelined by it) something has to give.

My primary focus this year is to cultivate in and reside predominantly in the space of Unbounded Joy, to know viscerally that I am inherently worthy of residing there no matter what else is swirling around me. I am the only one who has control of the frequency I choose to hang out at … and while it feels like I should be able to maintain calm and happiness in the midst of everything, I don’t yet do that.

 

When I am repeatedly blasted with info I am not actively seeking out (and know how to seek out when I am in the space to digest the info without being sidelined by it) something has to give.

Intentional use of Facebook is necessary self care.

How are you exercising proactive self care? What simple steps are you taking to keep your feel good on?

Please share  in the comments below or over on Facebook. I for one, would love to deepen my strategy here.

 

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  • Joyce February 12, 2017, 9:14 pm

    Intentionally living in the unified field of grace. Looking at all, as not other than me, but as me. Seeing the greatness in all. I have taken the steps you have and find that FB has become a positive place. I am choosing well and I find you there in my heart dear one. The fewer and fewer pop ups of negativity are greeted with knowing that that is me and that that needs love and so I give love, i open to loving that that is me and loving it even more.

    • Deborah Penner February 17, 2017, 2:17 pm

      Ohhhh Joyce!! Yes!! Thank you! You are gently and ever present in my heart as well …
      Sweet gentle reminding Presence of “Intentionally living in the unified field of grace.”
      Joy to you, Beautiful One, JOY to you.

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